“You can spit on a rose but it’s still a rose regardless.” – Marty Rubin πΉ
Spitting on a rose doesn’t make it a dandelion or a sunflower or worse still, a hibiscus flower. It doesn’t make it less attractive than it already is. Truth is, your germ filled toxic spittle doesn’t belittle its value – the rose is and will always be the epitome of beauty. If only we could all see ourselves as roses in a world full of weeds trying to pull us down… Then maybe, just maybe..,
Now back to this “idol worshipping” of the word PERFECTION and what it entails. Nobody’s perfect. If left to me, the word itself shouldn’t even exist! Why? Perfection can never be attained and yet still, we find ourselves in the midst of perfectionists who are clearly wasting their time. I am extremely careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for, perfection however is God’s business.
I’m a spiritual mess right now. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not unstable in my faith, I’m just in that confused state of mind. You can choose to call it.. A religious fix. Not because I don’t believe in God (I’d be an idiot to deny His very existence ) but simply because someway, somehow – the one place where I thought I would never be judged based on how I look – funny enough is where I’m judged the most! I mean, whatever happened to getting to truly know someone? What happened to not judging a book by its cover? Personality? Inner beauty? Tell me.. Aren’t “they” supposed to be more concerned about bleaching my “supposedly dirty brownish soul” into a sparkling pearly white colour? Instead, “they” seem to dwell more on the spicy red colour of my hair and the four piercings I have on both ears and my endless collection of anklets.. Right up to the black nail polish I have on (I suppose they all add up to give me a demonic look π)
At first, I thought that the church was the problem but then I came to realize that it was all me. Let me break this down a bit. See, the church is made up of people and people are human beings. And what do human beings do? – They talk, they JUDGE, they segregate, they look down upon, they criticize – in fact, they do just about anything! Myself inclusive, after all I am also a human being. You wear red lipstick to church and people start giving you the stink eye. You aren’t able to pray in tongues, and the prayer warriors take it upon themselves to make you feel “less Christian”. Unlike the others, you remain standing while the rest of the congregation is sprawled on the floor as a result of the anointing.. Now everyone else is looking at you like you’re demon-possessed (eyes rolling).
A friend once told me that I should see the church as a hospital where everyone comes with their own different illnesses with faith that the Lord will heal them. And that, to me, is what I had really lost sight of! In my mind, the church is this mini heaven where everyone else but myself is Holy and Perfect, forgetting that we are all sinners in the eyes of God. Honestly, you can’t blame me for thinking like that. Don’t you all have that one annoying “brother or sister in Christ” who feels they are one step closer to being angels and just have a way of making you feel like Christ died for everyone except you? That you are no better than the beasts guarding the dungeons of hell?? Well, that’s exactly how I felt at a point.
That, is just one aspect of it. Everywhere we find ourselves, we are judged quite brutally. What is it with human beings and their judgmental behavior? What gives someone the right to just look at you and feel they could write an entire novel about you? When will people come to realize that nobody’s perfect! That we’re all just one step up from the beasts and one step down from the angels and so no one has the right to JUDGE anyone. No one has it all figured out, especially not the people who are acting like they do and judging you because of it. Like it or not, be real and embrace that you have weaknesses. Because everyone does. Embrace that you’re not perfect. Because nobody is. Embrace that you have things you cannot control. We all have a list of those.
Pretending to be something you aren’t because you’re trying to please a bunch of judgmental hypocrites is not the way to be happy. You can’t live your life for someone else and you can’t let someone else tell you how to live your life. People spend so much time judging each other, it’s a complete waste of energy. Why don’t we focus more on living the lives we want to live. You should know by now that those who love you would never judge you, and if they did then they obviously never loved you to begin with – so stop worrying about what people think and say about you and LIVE LIFE on your own terms!
Remember the picture I placed at the beginning of this post? I’m sure you were all expecting me to go on and on about how supposedly “perfect” that picture isπ π and base my entire piece on that but no. My reason is simple.
οΏΌSee this picture? That’s me minus the make up and all that imagery of “perfection”… I may look different on the outside but it doesn’t have to be so on the inside. To those who know me… Without all that, am I less of the person that I am? I certainly don’t think so.
There are two kinds of perfect. The one you can never achieve, and the other, by just being yourself π
#perfection #lifestyle #youth #love #inspiration #ghanaianwriter
A perfect post on imperfection. “Me like it”
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Thank you dearβΊοΈ I’m glad you liked it
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Now everyone else is looking at you like youβre demon-possessed (eyes rolling).Good
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ππππππππππ thank you Silencer βΊοΈ
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This is inspirational
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πππππβ€οΈthank you b
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Thanks baibeyβΊοΈ
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Preach Girl!
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Yaaaaaaasssππ½ππ½β€οΈ
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U have said it all ππ people should stop judging cus it totally a waste of time
I love this ππππ
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True! Imagine a world where people didn’t judge each other…
Thank you for reading Ohenewa β€οΈπ
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Anytime hunππ
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Nice article
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Thank you Heming! βΊοΈ
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Nice piece ππ
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Thank you so much for reading bπ
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Now everyone else is looking at you like youβre demon-possessed (eyes rolling).
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great pack’a words makes it cLose to perfoction – nonetheLess, a LittLe bit of hitches here and there and chances to have minted more figurativeLy coined speeches… but hey, onΓ§e again, no human is perfeΓ§t
7.4/10 – GoodJob!
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ππ½ππ½ππ½ππ½ thank you Bernard! I really appreciate it
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Some things should never change. Keep it up! But on the subject, taking current times into account, wouldn’t you say even the term “Perfection” is kinda relative? Sure, the meaning in the dictionary barely changes but the meaning and use to each person….thats something to account for, right?
Just wondering…
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Yes and no. I guess it all comes down to perpective π.. Thank you so much for reading!
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Love your view on this term! Too many people gurgle it without knowing what to do with it. Anyways though, considering the relativity of almost everything these days…should the relative meaning of that word “Perfection” to each person be taken into account? But then I suppose that would only make it a bit confusing in deciding who is right or wrong…just saying though.
Excellent piece though! I have a lot to learn
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I sent an earlier comment but don’t think it went through so I apologize if 2 comments appearπ
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Can’t find my comment π£
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Don’t worry, your comment came through β€οΈβ€οΈ Thank you so much Sara
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You’ve given me something to think about π€
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Thank you for reading though π
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You’re most welcome. You should consider doing this more consistently…maybe…once a week?
DEFINITELY NOT once a month, that’s WAY too long! π
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Love your view on this term! Too many people gurgle it without knowing what to do with it. Anyways though, considering the relativity of almost everything these days…should the relative meaning of that word “Perfection” to each person be taken into account? But then I suppose that would only make it a bit confusing in deciding who is right or wrong…just saying though.
Excellent piece though! I have a lot to learn
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LOVE ITTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! β€
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Thanks baibeyβ€οΈ
Your comment means everything to meπ
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I love thisππππΎ
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ππ½ππ½ππ½ππ½thanks b!β€οΈ
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Inspired to start writing again. Beautiful, just beautiful.
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Wow! I never knew you had a blog!!! I’m going to hop on it the moment I’m done replying youπππ½ππ½ ππthank you so much for reading Robbyπ I’m happy you feel inspired to write again
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Woowwww
God Bless u 4 sharing dix wonderful thoughts wif us
am reli inspired….Tanx n Keep it up love
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A big Amen to thatππ½ and God bless you too for reading dear β€οΈ
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99.999 of world population resonates with your content in this piece!
You nailed it dearie!!
Keep it up!
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Yassssπ«ππ½ππ½ππ½
ππππthank you so much Daniel!
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I cant believe it!!!!! I have been to hear these words all my life. You are a great inspiration and obviously you are destined for greatness. God bless you dear.
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Amen!!! And God bless you too for reading Ella!β€οΈ it’s comments such as these that keep me going especially when I feel I can’t write anymore βΊοΈ
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Great pieceπ
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Vera I’m glad you liked itβ€οΈ
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Beautiful pieceπ….looking forward to seeing moreπ
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Saraaaaaa!!! π thank you! There’s definitely more where that came from
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This is a lovely reminder to everyone. Imperfections are definitely not inadequacies.
Thank you for this one
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That’s a really nice and simple way of summarizing everythingβΊοΈ Thank you for reading Tenu π
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This is exactly what I needed to start the day
πππ, thanks hun,, this post is perfectly on point and I really love it.
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ππI am so happy that this piece spoke to you! Thank you so much Asantewaa β€οΈ
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True talk….the church z supposed to b a healing centre n not a court room…
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If only everyone else could see it this wayπ€ sigh** Thank you for reading Abby βΊοΈ
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Beautiful my dear . Keep the spark alive. Beauty with brain. Intact. Infact me like π it β€π
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ππππππππππππβΊοΈ you should see the huge smile on my face right nowπ Abena thank you so much β€οΈ
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Lol forget perfection. You look really pretty without make up. Thats an uplifting write up God bless you. Am in love with it.
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ππππππoh thank you Gariba!βΊοΈβΊοΈ Amen!! And God bless you too.
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Amazing piece dear.Love ittttttt…….
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I’m so glad you loved it Shashaππ½ππ½ππ½π thanks baibey β€οΈ
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I’m glad you loved it Shasha ππππ½ππ½ππ½ thanks baibey β€οΈ
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Awwwwwww perfect post!!!!!niceeee……me likelyπππ
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Gracieeeeβ€οΈβ€οΈ thank you!!!πβ€οΈ
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Wow,jux perfect…kudos girl
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ππ½ππ½ππ½thank you dear βΊοΈ
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You should know by now that those who love you would never judge you, and if they did then they obviously never loved you to begin with β so stop worrying about what people think and say about you and LIVE LIFE on your own terms!”..i really love this part…more grease to ur elbow girl…God bless u for always inspiring ppl like me..muuahππππ
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I’m so happy that you were inspired! I love that you loved itππ½ππ½ππ½ Amen and God bless you too Patience β€οΈ
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Great piece hun….I love itβ€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ
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Awwwwww thank you dearβ€οΈ
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Great piece dear
This judgemental attitude among we christains sometimes mΓ kes me wonder if we really understand the scriptures….
Keep being yourself dear
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So true Belonia! It really has a way of drawing people away from the word simply because it’s the same “Christians” who push them away with their actions!
Thanks a lot for reading dear πβ€οΈ and I’ll keep being me for all it’s worth π
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This is good. I’m impressed
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ππππππ Frank thank you!!
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Very inspiring…. Kudos
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Eghan πππβΊοΈ thank you so much for reading
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This is something nice. I want to hug you in all your glory though – talking about all the piercings and anklets, oh ye perfect writer π
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I’m glad you liked it Fiifi βΊοΈ
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“SEE, THE CHURCH IS MADE UP OF PEOPLE AND PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS”
…fuck people. right??
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Literally πππ
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Great piece! Love love love the way you put your thoughts together. Waiting for your nextπ
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πππβΊοΈ thank you so much for reading DeeyA βΊοΈβΊοΈ. Will definitely notify you immediately the next one is due β€οΈπ
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I have had way more experience with church goers like you described than I care to think about. But the one thing I have learned is this: Those who judge the most are often the ones hiding the most. We all sin, we all fall short. Those who choose to pick each other up are the ones closes to Jesus. They are there, just often much more quiet. Great piece!
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I am so glad you could relate with this!! I couldn’t agree more with you more β€οΈβ€οΈππ thank you so much for reading dear βΊοΈ
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Being judgemental doesn’t make one a saint either…in the end each one is flawed needing Christ. Exactly what Christianity should be about…Christ-mindedness….simply put LOVE…not to end with LIVE LIFE on your own terms dear. Good piece dear…we keep learning each day but see it this way…often when people are judgemental it’s just a reflection of their innate desire and fear. They spew out what they themselves are…viewing with their lenses not Christ. Miss u
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Thank you so much for reading Kelvin β€οΈ and for the insight!
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You have been missed tooβΊοΈ
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Beautiful n inspirationalππ….n i love how u say everything without mincing words π
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D)))) thank you!!! ππππβ€οΈ
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You hit the nail right on the head. πππ
I couldn’t have agreed with you any better! π
For a moment, it felt like you were literally spewing out my perception of today’s church. π’
Our generation is just a bunch of sinners judging other sinners differently
The church has now deteriorated to being a museum of saints rather than being a hospital for the spiritually sick
Thank you for sharing this with the world!
I love love love this piece! πβ€ππ
I need to follow your blog asap!
I can’t afford to miss out on such insightful pieces like this in the near future π±
Keep blessing us with pieces like this ’cause a higher echelon awaits you!
P. E. R. F. E. C. T. I. O. N!!!!!!!! πππππ
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Wow! And to think that I was the only one who felt this way! I am so glad that you took time to read thisβΊοΈβΊοΈ I really appreciate it and I’m so excited to finally meet someone who thinks along the same line as I do β€οΈπ
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Dropped in here to offer my thanks for your recent decision to follow Learning from Dogs. Much appreciated!
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Don’t mention it
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Hello!! Love your blogs really much! KEEP IT UP because they are AMAZING and AWESOME! P.S. followed you and liked all your blogs ^^ Can you please do tiny favour for me to follow me? THANK YOU SO MUCH
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Thank you so muchππππππ I really really appreciate it!!! And don’t worry dear, I’m following you as wellπ
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Thanks !
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Great article! The only thing I didn’t agree with us that the word “perfection” shouldn’t exist, because we need to be able to describe God. You do go into that later and I appreciate that. Again, great article! I have a perspective on perfection as well. Come check out my blog and let me know what you think.
https://bossinthemiddle.com/2016/12/14/obsessed-with-being-perfect/
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ππ½ππ½ππ½ I will definitely have a look at your blog too!!β€οΈ thank you so much for readingπ
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Thank you!
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I’m inspired……nice piece
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ππππ thank you so much!
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so nice to have found you. thanks for your writing and insight xoxo
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ππππ and thank you too for reading dear β€οΈ
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