“You can spit on a rose but it’s still a rose regardless.” – Marty Rubin 🌹
Spitting on a rose doesn’t make it a dandelion or a sunflower or worse still, a hibiscus flower. It doesn’t make it less attractive than it already is. Truth is, your germ filled toxic spittle doesn’t belittle its value – the rose is and will always be the epitome of beauty. If only we could all see ourselves as roses in a world full of weeds trying to pull us down… Then maybe, just maybe..,
Now back to this “idol worshipping” of the word PERFECTION and what it entails. Nobody’s perfect. If left to me, the word itself shouldn’t even exist! Why? Perfection can never be attained and yet still, we find ourselves in the midst of perfectionists who are clearly wasting their time. I am extremely careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for, perfection however is God’s business.
I’m a spiritual mess right now. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not unstable in my faith, I’m just in that confused state of mind. You can choose to call it.. A religious fix. Not because I don’t believe in God (I’d be an idiot to deny His very existence ) but simply because someway, somehow – the one place where I thought I would never be judged based on how I look – funny enough is where I’m judged the most! I mean, whatever happened to getting to truly know someone? What happened to not judging a book by its cover? Personality? Inner beauty? Tell me.. Aren’t “they” supposed to be more concerned about bleaching my “supposedly dirty brownish soul” into a sparkling pearly white colour? Instead, “they” seem to dwell more on the spicy red colour of my hair and the four piercings I have on both ears and my endless collection of anklets.. Right up to the black nail polish I have on (I suppose they all add up to give me a demonic look 😂)
At first, I thought that the church was the problem but then I came to realize that it was all me. Let me break this down a bit. See, the church is made up of people and people are human beings. And what do human beings do? – They talk, they JUDGE, they segregate, they look down upon, they criticize – in fact, they do just about anything! Myself inclusive, after all I am also a human being. You wear red lipstick to church and people start giving you the stink eye. You aren’t able to pray in tongues, and the prayer warriors take it upon themselves to make you feel “less Christian”. Unlike the others, you remain standing while the rest of the congregation is sprawled on the floor as a result of the anointing.. Now everyone else is looking at you like you’re demon-possessed (eyes rolling).
A friend once told me that I should see the church as a hospital where everyone comes with their own different illnesses with faith that the Lord will heal them. And that, to me, is what I had really lost sight of! In my mind, the church is this mini heaven where everyone else but myself is Holy and Perfect, forgetting that we are all sinners in the eyes of God. Honestly, you can’t blame me for thinking like that. Don’t you all have that one annoying “brother or sister in Christ” who feels they are one step closer to being angels and just have a way of making you feel like Christ died for everyone except you? That you are no better than the beasts guarding the dungeons of hell?? Well, that’s exactly how I felt at a point.
That, is just one aspect of it. Everywhere we find ourselves, we are judged quite brutally. What is it with human beings and their judgmental behavior? What gives someone the right to just look at you and feel they could write an entire novel about you? When will people come to realize that nobody’s perfect! That we’re all just one step up from the beasts and one step down from the angels and so no one has the right to JUDGE anyone. No one has it all figured out, especially not the people who are acting like they do and judging you because of it. Like it or not, be real and embrace that you have weaknesses. Because everyone does. Embrace that you’re not perfect. Because nobody is. Embrace that you have things you cannot control. We all have a list of those.
Pretending to be something you aren’t because you’re trying to please a bunch of judgmental hypocrites is not the way to be happy. You can’t live your life for someone else and you can’t let someone else tell you how to live your life. People spend so much time judging each other, it’s a complete waste of energy. Why don’t we focus more on living the lives we want to live. You should know by now that those who love you would never judge you, and if they did then they obviously never loved you to begin with – so stop worrying about what people think and say about you and LIVE LIFE on your own terms!
Remember the picture I placed at the beginning of this post? I’m sure you were all expecting me to go on and on about how supposedly “perfect” that picture is👅🙃 and base my entire piece on that but no. My reason is simple.
￼See this picture? That’s me minus the make up and all that imagery of “perfection”… I may look different on the outside but it doesn’t have to be so on the inside. To those who know me… Without all that, am I less of the person that I am? I certainly don’t think so.
There are two kinds of perfect. The one you can never achieve, and the other, by just being yourself 💋
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