PERFECTION 🎭


“You can spit on a rose but it’s still a rose regardless.” – Marty Rubin 🌹

Spitting on a rose doesn’t make it a dandelion or a sunflower or worse still, a hibiscus flower. It doesn’t make it less attractive than it already is. Truth is, your germ filled toxic spittle doesn’t belittle its value – the rose is and will always be the epitome of beauty. If only we could all see ourselves as roses in a world full of weeds trying to pull us down… Then maybe, just maybe.., 
Now back to this “idol worshipping” of the word PERFECTION and what it entails. Nobody’s perfect. If left to me, the word itself shouldn’t even exist! Why? Perfection can never be attained and yet still, we find ourselves in the midst of perfectionists who are clearly wasting their time. I am extremely careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for, perfection however is God’s business. 
I’m a spiritual mess right now. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not unstable in my faith, I’m just in that confused state of mind. You can choose to call it.. A religious fix. Not because I don’t believe in God (I’d be an idiot to deny His very existence ) but simply because someway, somehow – the one place where I thought I would never be judged based on how I look – funny enough is where I’m judged the most! I mean, whatever happened to getting to truly know someone? What happened to not judging a book by its cover? Personality? Inner beauty? Tell me.. Aren’t “they” supposed to be more concerned about bleaching my “supposedly dirty brownish soul” into a sparkling pearly white colour? Instead, “they” seem to dwell more on the spicy red colour of my hair and the four piercings I have on both ears and my endless collection of anklets.. Right up to the black nail polish I have on (I suppose they all add up to give me a demonic look πŸ˜‚) 
At first, I thought that the church was the problem but then I came to realize that it was all me. Let me break this down a bit. See, the church is made up of people and people are human beings. And what do human beings do? – They talk, they JUDGE, they segregate, they look down upon, they criticize – in fact, they do just about anything! Myself inclusive, after all I am also a human being. You wear red lipstick to church and people start giving you the stink eye. You aren’t able to pray in tongues, and the prayer warriors take it upon themselves to make you feel “less Christian”. Unlike the others, you remain standing while the rest of the congregation is sprawled on the floor as a result of the anointing.. Now everyone else is looking at you like you’re demon-possessed (eyes rolling).

A friend once told me that I should see the church as a hospital where everyone comes with their own different illnesses with faith that the Lord will heal them. And that, to me, is what I had really lost sight of! In my mind, the church is this mini heaven where everyone else but myself is Holy and Perfect, forgetting that we are all sinners in the eyes of God. Honestly, you can’t blame me for thinking like that. Don’t you all have that one annoying “brother or sister in Christ” who feels they are one step closer to being angels and just have a way of making you feel like Christ died for everyone except you? That you are no better than the beasts guarding the dungeons of hell?? Well, that’s exactly how I felt at a point. 
That, is just one aspect of it. Everywhere we find ourselves, we are judged quite brutally. What is it with human beings and their judgmental behavior? What gives someone the right to just look at you and feel they could write an entire novel about you? When will people come to realize that nobody’s perfect! That we’re all just one step up from the beasts and one step down from the angels and so no one has the right to JUDGE anyone. No one has it all figured out, especially not the people who are acting like they do and judging you because of it. Like it or not, be real and embrace that you have weaknesses. Because everyone does. Embrace that you’re not perfect. Because nobody is. Embrace that you have things you cannot control. We all have a list of those.
Pretending to be something you aren’t because you’re trying to please a bunch of judgmental hypocrites is not the way to be happy. You can’t live your life for someone else and you can’t let someone else tell you how to live your life. People spend so much time judging each other, it’s a complete waste of energy. Why don’t we focus more on living the lives we want to live. You should know by now that those who love you would never judge you, and if they did then they obviously never loved you to begin with – so stop worrying about what people think and say about you and LIVE LIFE on your own terms! 

Remember the picture I placed at the beginning of this post? I’m sure you were all expecting me to go on and on about how supposedly “perfect” that picture isπŸ‘…πŸ™ƒ and base my entire piece on that but no. My reason is simple. 


οΏΌSee this picture? That’s me minus the make up and all that imagery of “perfection”… I may look different on the outside but it doesn’t have to be so on the inside. To those who know me… Without all that, am I less of the person that I am? I certainly don’t think so.
There are two kinds of perfect. The one you can never achieve, and the other, by just being yourself πŸ’‹
#perfection #lifestyle #youth #love #inspiration #ghanaianwriter 

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101 thoughts on “PERFECTION 🎭

  1. great pack’a words makes it cLose to perfoction – nonetheLess, a LittLe bit of hitches here and there and chances to have minted more figurativeLy coined speeches… but hey, onΓ§e again, no human is perfeΓ§t
    7.4/10 – GoodJob!

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  2. Some things should never change. Keep it up! But on the subject, taking current times into account, wouldn’t you say even the term “Perfection” is kinda relative? Sure, the meaning in the dictionary barely changes but the meaning and use to each person….thats something to account for, right?
    Just wondering…

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  3. Love your view on this term! Too many people gurgle it without knowing what to do with it. Anyways though, considering the relativity of almost everything these days…should the relative meaning of that word “Perfection” to each person be taken into account? But then I suppose that would only make it a bit confusing in deciding who is right or wrong…just saying though.
    Excellent piece though! I have a lot to learn

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  4. Love your view on this term! Too many people gurgle it without knowing what to do with it. Anyways though, considering the relativity of almost everything these days…should the relative meaning of that word “Perfection” to each person be taken into account? But then I suppose that would only make it a bit confusing in deciding who is right or wrong…just saying though.
    Excellent piece though! I have a lot to learn

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  5. I cant believe it!!!!! I have been to hear these words all my life. You are a great inspiration and obviously you are destined for greatness. God bless you dear.

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  6. You should know by now that those who love you would never judge you, and if they did then they obviously never loved you to begin with – so stop worrying about what people think and say about you and LIVE LIFE on your own terms!”..i really love this part…more grease to ur elbow girl…God bless u for always inspiring ppl like me..muuahπŸ’•πŸ’žπŸ’‹πŸ’‹

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    • So true Belonia! It really has a way of drawing people away from the word simply because it’s the same “Christians” who push them away with their actions!

      Thanks a lot for reading dear πŸ™ˆβ€οΈ and I’ll keep being me for all it’s worth 😊

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  7. I have had way more experience with church goers like you described than I care to think about. But the one thing I have learned is this: Those who judge the most are often the ones hiding the most. We all sin, we all fall short. Those who choose to pick each other up are the ones closes to Jesus. They are there, just often much more quiet. Great piece!

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  8. Being judgemental doesn’t make one a saint either…in the end each one is flawed needing Christ. Exactly what Christianity should be about…Christ-mindedness….simply put LOVE…not to end with LIVE LIFE on your own terms dear. Good piece dear…we keep learning each day but see it this way…often when people are judgemental it’s just a reflection of their innate desire and fear. They spew out what they themselves are…viewing with their lenses not Christ. Miss u

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  9. You hit the nail right on the head. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘
    I couldn’t have agreed with you any better! πŸ‘Š
    For a moment, it felt like you were literally spewing out my perception of today’s church. 😒
    Our generation is just a bunch of sinners judging other sinners differently
    The church has now deteriorated to being a museum of saints rather than being a hospital for the spiritually sick
    Thank you for sharing this with the world!
    I love love love this piece! πŸ˜­β€πŸ’•πŸ’˜
    I need to follow your blog asap!
    I can’t afford to miss out on such insightful pieces like this in the near future 😱
    Keep blessing us with pieces like this ’cause a higher echelon awaits you!
    P. E. R. F. E. C. T. I. O. N!!!!!!!! πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

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    • πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ
      Wow! And to think that I was the only one who felt this way! I am so glad that you took time to read this☺️☺️ I really appreciate it and I’m so excited to finally meet someone who thinks along the same line as I do β€οΈπŸ’‹

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